Steven Gaffney





I have been married to my amazing bride since 1996. We have three daughters who are in their late teens and early twenties and who are some of my favorite people in the world. Besides my faith, my wife and kids are the highest priority in my life.

In addition to being a husband and father, I have worked in several sectors and in many positions to provide for my family. This included working for small and medium sized companies; employed by for-profit and non-profit; jobs that were blue collar and white collar; entry level and management. After much encouragement from friends, family, professionals, and what I would call “providence”, I changed my life course and went back to school to pursue a career in counseling.

During the process of working through school, I had the privilege of working in several capacities at a youth shelter where I interacted with DSHS, CPS and the foster care system. I worked with kids in all kinds of challenging situations. It was the most challenging, lowest paying and most rewarding job I’ve ever had. I also worked as a case manager for formerly homeless kids in a young-adult housing program.
I’m a follower of Jesus Christ and my faith certainly informs my world views. It also makes me acutely aware of the impact religion and spirituality can have on our lives. Even though I am a Christian, I appreciate that every person is on their own spiritual journey.



I love that in my work I'm able to work with such a wide variety of people. I have been privileged to have support individuals from many cultures and different life stages from age 5 to 95 - I especially enjoy working with tweens, teens, young adults and those who are young at heart.  I’ve worked with families (kids and their parents).  I’ve done parent counseling (helping parents know how to best work with their kids). I have also worked with couples in premarital work and couples counseling.

I am a client-centered, strengths based, solution focused, systems therapist who tends to leans towards an existential and experiential therapeutic styles.  In graduate school I focused my study on Solution Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT). SFBT focuses on solutions rather than the problems. SFBT helps the client(s) be aware of and build upon successes and strengths that they already have.

Additionally I’m been influenced by and see a lot of value in the interventions used in Narrative Therapy and Emotion Focused Therapy.  I am certified in Adlerian psychology and it helps inform my parenting perspective as well as Dan Siegel's work.  In my couples work I rely heavily on John Gottman's works and research; the Prepare and Enrich program; and I'm influenced by Sue Johnson's Emotionally Focused Therapy.


Certificate of Professional Studies in Adlerian Studies

Gottman Method Level 1 Certificate of Completion

Prepare and Enrich Certified Facilitator

Member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy