Steven Gaffney





I have been married to my amazing bride for almost 21 years. We have three daughters ages 14, 17 and 20 who are some of my favorite people in the world. Besides my faith, my wife and kids are the highest priority in my life.

In addition to being a husband and father, I have worked in several sectors and in many positions to provide for my family. This included working for small and medium sized companies; employed by for-profit and non-profit; jobs that were blue collar and white collar; entry level and management. After much encouragement from friends, family, professionals, and what I would call “providence”, I changed my life course and went back to school to pursue a career in counseling.

During the process of working through school, I had the privilege of working in several capacities at a youth shelter where I interacted with DSHS, CPS and the foster care system. I worked with kids in all kinds of challenging situations. It was the most challenging, lowest paying and most rewarding job I’ve ever had. I also worked as a case manager for formerly homeless kids in a young-adult housing program.
I’m a follower of Jesus Christ and my faith certainly informs my world views. It also makes me acutely aware of the impact religion and spirituality can have on our lives. Even though I am a Christian, I appreciate that every person is on their own spiritual journey.



I’ve worked with children of all ages and adults. I’ve worked with families (kids and their parents). I’ve done parent counseling (helping parents know how to best work with their kids). I have also worked with couples in premarital work and couples counseling.

In graduate school I focused my study on Solution Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT). SFBT focuses on solutions rather than the problems. SFBT helps the client(s) be aware of and build upon successes and strengths that they already have.

Additionally I’m been influenced by and see a lot of value in the interventions used in Narrative Therapy and Emotion Focused Therapy. Adlerian psychology helps inform my parenting perspective and I appreciate the Gottman method in couples work.


  • Certificate of Professional Studies in Adlerian Studies
  • Gottman Method Level 1 Certificate of Completion
  • Prepare and Enrich Certified Facilitator
  • Member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy